Is counseling important for marriage?
“Communication is the root of marital success from which a strong union can grow...”
As all people are different, so is it true that every marriage is different. We all know couples who have been together for what seems like a lifetime and claim to have never had a major fight. We probably all know, as well, couples that seem to bicker constantly yet have remained happily married for years. Commonly, we know or might ourselves be involved in relationships that are not going so well for any variety of reasons.
The question “when should I do marriage counseling?” can be a difficult one to answer. Waiting until the marriage is on the verge of divorce can in many cases be too late. By then, other people and factors can be involved that make salvaging the relationship difficult - but not without hope. Just more work will need to be put into it. But waiting for signs of divorce to start counseling can in many ways be like trying to spoon water out of a sinking boat when you saw the iceberg coming a mile away.
How can you know when is a good time to start marriage therapy?
As communication is the root of marital success, it stands to reason that non-communication is a good warning signing that things are heading in the wrong direction.
“Should we do marriage counseling?” is probably not the best question to ask. Instead, ask these:
Do I feel uncertain about the future of my marriage?
Has my partner betrayed my trust with behavior that is difficult for me to forgive?
Do I feel I can’t communicate to my spouse, even about issues which strongly affect both of us?
Have I violated the trust of my marriage but don’t know how to make it right?
Do discussions about difficult subjects tend to lead to arguments?
Do I ever feel that we are slowly growing apart?
Have I experienced feelings of jealous that have undermined my trust?
Are the strains of everyday life interfering with our closeness and my affection for my spouse?
If the answer to any of these is “yes”, it is time to start considering counseling.
How can marriage counseling help your marriage?
Marriage counseling is an safe and controlled way to open up to your partner and begin repairing those things that have broken down communication. Especially for couples that have a difficult time sorting through difficulties using conversation alone, this makes marriage counseling not only important but invaluable.
Where discussions with your spouse alone might often turn into fights, a marriage counsellor can help to keep both spouses calm and get them listening to each other - that all-important goal.
Where can I get marriage counseling?
It’s never to late to become the loving partner you want to be, and have the deep and fulfilling relationship every couple hopes for.
The Church of Scientology in San Francisco offers marriage counseling in the San Francisco Bay Area, 7 days a week.
To find out more, contact us or visit our Marriage Counseling page for more details.
